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One day in 1950, North Korean farmer, Lee Che Con, his wife and six children sat down at the side of the road for two days waiting for a miracle. And not just any old miracle either. The family’s paddy field and sole hope of surviving the oncoming winter had been mined by retreating North Korean troops. Many pursuing UN troops may have driven up, one look soon convinced them to drive on. Someone with a knowledge of explosives was needed. As luck would have it, in this mayhem, along came an explosives expert–a long way from his home near the ‘tap o’ the hill,’ in Dundee and a young Private from Spring Creek, Tallangatta, Victoria, who both then spent an hour expecting every second to be their last, defusing that field. I felt quite sad today that I wasn’t able to get the usual local newspaper remembrance notice for that explosives expert—my dad—who died 27 years ago today, when he more than went out of his way to do what he did all these years ago.
Let me tell you it certainly wasn’t for want of trying on my Mr and my parts. But I think I can tell you that my dad would have been the first to say that a company that sends forth ‘respectful’ reminder letters in the middle of a pandemic when the letters are clearly ‘spew outs’, their ‘open’ offices are shut and then expects you to listen to the complete works of Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart on hold, at three times the already exorbitant cost of that notice, is a company to give the finger to. Not in these exact words of course.
But I sure have the memory of everything he taught me, his peony roses in full bloom right now and plenty stories to tell the grandies who I am pretty certain he’d have adored.
Lovely post Shey. xx
Jane Thank you. I was pure fizzing as we say here over that whole carry on but then I thought, who reads these notices anyway? But if i put here and on facebook, people will hopefully read it. SO thank you. xxxx
great story. You have a great dad. Thank you for sharing.
John, thank you for reading. I just wanted to do something. He always did for people dad but this one? Well, this one is so many ways was on another level really, so xxx for everything
You are very welcome.
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John thank you again. That is so good of you xxx (My dad’s name was also John.)
You are very welcome again.
John thank you x
What an amazing person your dad must have been. What a father to have! Beautiful tribute, Shey
Oh right to the day before he died Cat and he would throw me out the ward cos I wouldn’t give him all his fags. Quite an entertainment fro those in that ward. Indeed they used to line up for the set to. Thank you for reading. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx means a lot.
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So uplifting to remember there are heroes Shey and your Dad is a hero. A beautiful remembrance. ❤️ xxxxxx
There are heroes. Sometimes they just get hidden for a bit you know when you see the world in flames . I always thought, I know he had some high up position in ammo in that war but he still didn’t need to stop, he didn’t need to help. And in the newspaper reports all he said was there were kids there who could have picked one of these things up. That was it. Move on. That kind of thing. Just so him xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx for reading. Greatly appreciate it.
A wonderful tribute to your heroic father, dear Shey. May his soul be at peace and his memory live forever!
Dolly. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx After the carry on over the ‘remembrance’ notice I thought stuff it, I will write something but actually that was not as easy as I thought either. I had lots of ideas before thinking, this is the story to go with. So thank you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
My pleasure, dear Shey!
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These are such a worthy memories which never will be forgotten, I feel and understand you fully ❤ thank you for sharing it with us 🙏🙏❤🥰😘
Alaedin, thank YOU in every way xxx
What a lovely real world tale. By the way, I’d run with ‘those exact words’ simply because that’s all they deserve. Splendid, Ms S. Best read of the day. Regards, The Old Fool
Mr S. YOUNG fool you, thank you, Oh and I will be running with these exact words from now on, for me mum’s notice too. xxxx
They were all a special generation. Thanks for remembering their giving spirit of which we can all take a lesson from.
C.D I have actually spent days thinking what the hell will I post here, the roses, the pics of where he briefly grew up for a year or five as a four year old, (not five mins from where I now live ) after his mum died , whatever about him, then I thought yesterday, given all that is happening right now, humanity, I need to post humanity.xxx
Very nice, SM. He was a handsome chap.
He was no bad actually . My mam certainly thought he was handsome!!!
Crying! What a dad! Like father like daughter, aye?! Big Love to you, Lady Shey. Enjoy the peonies, my favorite flower, BTW. xoxoxo
Oh, he had his faults like us all. But even these did teach me so much as he did xxxxxxxxxx
I had such a dad as well. I consider myself among the upper echelon of lucky because of it. ❤️😘🥳
Well thy sure taught you about life! Oh and Survival xx
Your father was a brave man as well as a great dad.
Oh, sometimes like us all, he could be difficul!t But thank you so very very much xxxx
He had his sometimes difficult moments , having had a very difficult upbringing but he would never not help anyone x
What a fabulous post. Your father was a true hero💕
xxxxxxxxxxxx He was never perfect. None of us are. But one thing he never did was pas anyone by.
Seems like you had the dad I never did.
You are lucky, and I send my very best to you and yours.
Much admiration to your father,
Resa xoxo
Resa, my lovely Resa, my dad had the most terrible abused upbringing, one I have pieced together down the years.His mum died when he was 4 and his dad, a traumatized ww1 black sheep of the family soldier couldn’t bring him or the siblings up for a bit, so my original post was going to be about how the grandparents who were living five mins from where we are now, running a very comfortable boarding house took him in for a year or two until he had to go back to the dad in absolute poverty, who had remarried. A step sister told me many , many years later about how they beat him senseless at aged 14 to make him hand up his wages but how he always sneaked through and told this quite dysfunctional family it would be alright and how here was a penny or so he had kept back. In many ways he was very very, beyond belief difficult but he would never ever NOT help anyone. I admire him here after he chucked me out the hospital the night before he died for not handing over his fags, for what he did that day for that family because, he may have had the savvy to take that field to bits but even with that savvy, not everyone would do it. Like us all, he was complicated. I mean there were bits growing up where I thought Okay and you have turned on me for what??? Live is complicated I guess xxxx
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Now I see where you get part of your inspiration in your writing.
The more intelligent, wise or wanting truth for good; the more one is liberated, and humbled by reality.
You use these humbled realities in your writing. This is very clear to me, as I finish the last words of Lady Lazuli.
It’s not all that stokes your creativity, yet it remains a part of your writer’s psyche.
I also see why the physical act of love is a completion to life in your wonderful stories.
xxoo
Resa, as ever you are so kind to me. I spied an email from you and am off to reply. but yeah , i always found inspiration around me. xx
Life is too complicated sometimes. Bless you. Bless your dad.
You are right Leggypeggy! He was a man who rose above his circumstances and I think these things were in him from his own people but his father who was the family black sheep ran off to WW1 aged 14, and was horribly damaged by his experiences as so many men were. I am sure that dad’s life would have been very different growing up but for that. Indeed life is complicated Bless YOU for the lovely comment.
That is such a sad story about your dad’s upbringing but what a hero he was. You are a lot like him, aren’t you? ❤ xx
A lot of people say that re that…. the poor man! He did not have a good upbringing which makes the way he rose above that all the more remarkable. xxxxxxxx Carol
What a wonderful real life story of a great character. With the news filled with the worst of people it’s an absolute pleasure to read about the best in us. Sending you the biggest hug possible my friend xxx
Gary xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx you. Really. Truly. The best is always there, it just gets lost sometimes under the worst. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
A beautiful tribute to your dad.
Peggy thank you so much. It all makes the week I spent thinking how do I do this post worthwhile? Where do I start here? For a while after his mum died, when he was four, he was brought up by grandparents who ran a boarding house here where I live, down on the harbor. I even went down and took all these pics of it and of what would have been his world for the next few years, harbor, beach castle, then on Thursday i thought nah, right now, this is the story to tell. And it also sums him up entirely as a person. I had the cuttings on it from when I did the family history. xx
It’s a remarkable story. Few people know much about the Korean War and the incredible and unjust hardships the North Koreans faced. Your dad was a true hero.
Dad never talked much about any of his army days but he did say that war was a terrible conflict. The North Koreans scorched everything in their retreat, the US forces blitzed everything whatever including UN troops galore and you were in more danger from them than anybody. The cold and snow in the winter was beyond belief…there’s some pics of him in that. And yeah, not much is known. He made jokes, like him and his men drove about in their military truck with a barber’s chair and clock and took it everywhere so they could shave etc but I guess they needed that type of humor.
So glad you have some of these memories recorded.
I keep all the wee bits and pieces xxxxxxxxx
You have me in tears. Such a special story of an act of true heroism by your father. Your love for him shines through – I had to laugh at the ciggies! You have inherited his generosity of spirit and I know he would be so proud of the little ones in the family. And his stunning peonies live on. Beautiful. xxx
Oh he could be murderously difficult Kate. Let’s be clear !!! Lol. His upbringing was dreadful and he never talked much about that. Like he talked about things like the hiding he got from the grandfather after the older brother shot his portrait to bits with an old WW1 rifle…as you do… and blamed dad , when they both lived there for a bit. He just said, ‘Dave was always a sleekit boy.’ But all he ever said to me was he never got a cuddle or a birthday present till he met my mum. His dad was very damaged by his experiences in WW1, as were so many, and his step sister told me not long before he died about how awful that upbringing was and where he learned his kindness despite frequently being beaten to hand up his wages, from, no-one knows. But he was unfailingly good to the old and the young and this biz that day was actually just him all over, without hesitation. Watching wee man at the school mini gym sports last year, I just thought, dad would have loved his complete out the way, I am climbing to the top of these wall bars, fearlessness. He’d have liked the fact Riley is a very kind boy known to stand up to other kids in order to defend someone, and I also reckon, Amara’s cautious, keep coming back and size this up, till I have it sized and can do it, would have gone down an equal treat. I have had these peonies since 1986 when they moved into a flat. A long time. I also have his primroses, shamrock…which will only grow in that damned peony pot…and his desert cactus. Thank you for the lovely comment.
He sounds a complex man, but it’s wonderful that you continue to celebrate his life with his flowers. xx
I think we are all complex at heart. All the little bits and pieces I have like the flowers always brighen my day xxx
What a heartwarming read. Your father sounds like a wonderful (though complicated man). – Marty
I guess I would not want anyone to think that in life we are all outright heroes if you get me. He could be one hell of a prickly. BUT I always come back to how he never ever saw anyone stuck and how he brought me up to believe…not in an arrogant way… I was as good as anyone cos we are all that. he also taught me every bit of DIY going, what wire to cut when you have to and how to box . Thank you for reading and for commenting xxx
Thanking you father for his service! His generation may have been the last to “give a damn” about anything. Tanti cari saluti dall’Italia.
E molti per te nel tuo bellissimo paese dalla Scozia. Come hai ricevuto tutto ciò che sta accadendo oggi.
A true hero he was 🤍
Thank you so much. He would never have thought so but yeah, xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Beautiful rememberance, Shey. xx
Christy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Thank you. Truly
A most beautiful tribute to your dad Shey. ❤ xx
Debby, I wanted to do something and I actually didn’t know where to start so it is wonderful to have brought him to so many people and I am touched by all the comments. Thank you x
A most beautiful gesture Shey. You did a beautiful job. ❤
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Debby, Truly xx
That was a miracle and he remembered their names. Great story, thank you.
Oh I got their names from a very old South China Times press cutting that mum had and then when I did the family history I manged to get more from local papers at the library cos I remembered that mum said the press arrived at her mum and dad’s house, where she was living and had been busily black leading their one grate at the time. and it was all news to her. Dad never generally remembered a name in his life. But thank you Michael that is very very kind.
Wow…what amazes me is how our fathers survived that chaos. I am grateful to be alive.
Yeah… I guess that sums it up. I mean I routinely think re that, cos this was uyt one conflict to them and they already were the product of previous ones.
But we are alive and I hope we carry that light in different ways if you get me xxx.
What a lovely man he must have been, Shey. Now, rather than local, you’ve presented a global tribute, and added another story to your collection of family tales.
I agree, his peony roses are beautiful.
Like most of us, he was very complicated, Cath. But he certainly would never see anyone stuck. And yep, rather than a pokey wee cost a fortune remembrance notice, tucked away and seen by very few, I feel this old story has come back to the light. Thank you so much for reading and commenting. It means a lot to me xxxxxxxxx ( And yes his roses may be old now but they are still pretty stunning every year at this time)
the roses are obviously being well looked after. xxx
You know something? They just grow in the same pot as his shamrock which won’t grow anywhere else. I never look near them that way !
What a beautiful tribute, the peony roses look stunning. Lots of love xxxxxxxxxxxx
Aw, lovely Dawn, thank you. They are really bonnie xxx
Wonderful tribute.
Timothy , thank you so much. and here’s another example where I did reply but the net obvi collapsed. I wanted to do something for him. And I thought of all the stories and bits of his life and decided at the last this was the one to do. So thank you xxxxxxxx
WP always has issues. It was a good story. Humanity at it’s best.
Sometimes it says I am connected to the net when I’m not. Another prob here but yeah WP can play up too. Dad would never pass anyone by whatever. Thank you so much. We could do with more humanity right now.
Wonderful to read about your father… 💗
he wasn’t perfect you know but who is? Thank you so much, I wanted to do something for him last week. Great post from you yesterday too my friend, I tried to say so but then my net collapsed, it does that often but as ever there was you seeing the good in all situations xxx
Nice post
Thank you so so much, I salute you for saying all that you have here x
You are always welcome
Thank you my friend x
I salute him
Your father’s a marvelous soul, Shey, to be sure. No matter how muddled our governments get, your dad put his life on the line and protected others because it was the right thing to do. May we all share such bravery in uncertain days–especially for the little ones at our side.xxxxxxxx
Jean, thank you xxxxx The little ones at our sides are the one we must protect. They’re the future. And you’re right about no matter how muddled governments get, there’s things we must try to do , xxxxxxxx
Gracious
xxxxxxxxxxxxx. The world sure is crazy right now.
Respect ♥️
Abhin, that is so kind of you. Thank you. xxxxxxxx
Shehanne, with today being Father’s Day in the U.S., I wanted to belatedly comment on your terrific post. Sounds like your dad was a courageous, helpful person. And he seemed to know a lot about flowers, too. 🙂
Aw, Dave xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx thank you. Happy Father’s Day to you too. And he did know about flowers. He loved his garden.
Plz. Cary on posting.
Aww, thank you so much. I will carry on posting xxxxxx Hope you will too.
Very good
Should get another post up this weekend. x
That is just so moving, Shey. What a wonderful man your father was. So kind, brave and heroic, and handsome, too :-).xxxx
As for smallminded, meanspirited wotsits hiding at the end of telephone lines, hiding themselves behind the works of great composers, I can think of many words requiring asterisks to describe them, as would Mozart at having his music taken in vain D:
LOL!!!! I know many businesses are in trouble, but using Mozart to screw money out of people is beyond it!!! That was the final straw. Thank you Sarah, very kind of you. Dad was complicated, like so many of us but he would never pass anyone by. I always think with this story, he was the right one in the right place that day xxxx
Nice blog 🙂
Vishal, thank you so much, that is more than kind x
I will be very happy if you visit my blog
I am just about to Vishal. And more than happy to do that.
My salute to your hero-dad. Acts of kindness like so truly can make a difference.
THAT is so kind. The thing is in his own life, which was hard to start with, he never knew kindness but he did know how to be kind. And truly, right now, kindness is what we need to make the world go round xxxxxx
Perfect hero! How beautifully you have expressed your feelings 😊.great 💕
Vishal, xxxxxxxxxx you. That is kind. I wanted to do something for him even though he’s not here.
You can do just put your all energy in the one thing that you aspire for and one day you’re going to feel proud of yourself
Aw… Got to keep hoping xxxxx
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Oh MY. Thank you SO MUCH. That is so kind of you. I am coming over to see it xxxxxxx
Coucou mon Amie SHEHANNE
Mes pensées à partager avec vous
Il nous reste une vie malgré le temps qui court
Il nous reste cette vie pour bien remplir nos jours quel quand soit son parcours
Il nous reste la vie pour chercher l’ amour ou celle de l’amitié
C’est vrai que nous cherchons parfois
A nous raccrocher au passé
Sans trop savoir pourquoi , surtout sans trop vouloir y penser
Mais l’on sais bien qu’au fond de soi
Que le temps coule comme un sablier
Qu’importe mes Amies Amis il faut le vivre l’instant présent et profiter de nos journées
Belle Journée ou Bonne fin d’après-midi a toi dans le calme et la douceur
Bises amicales
Bernard
My friend Bernard, xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx as always for your lovely words.
He sounds like he was an amazing person. I can’t relate on my part but happy that you got to experience that kind of love and wisdom. 🤗
That is very, very kind of you and I am truly sorry that your experience has not been what you may see here.
Like us all, my dad was also a very complicated person, probably because of his difficult upbringing. I don’t know where he got his kindness from because from the things I was told —not by him — it certainly wasn’t from there. But I guess we can overcome certain things and I think that is what to strive for in life. That you can leave a comment like this tells me you have done this xxxx
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You have a great dad. My salute to a fellow veteran.
My salute to you, truly xxxxxx
thank you, my dear. well appreciated!
Very welcome. xx
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Your love for you dad is very clear in your writing. Lovely. He sounds like a pretty amazing person. 💗
Oh I think like many of us, he was not without his faults. But he’d never see anyone stuck, whatever the circumstances. Thank you for the lovely comment. Very very kind of you x
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Very moving story about your Dad, Shey
Paul xxxxxx Thank you.
My salute to your dad: a real hero 🙏💙🙏
xxx Luisa, he just never saw anyone stuck, despite having a very difficult upbringing. xxx you. Truly. That was a great blog post you had up today. xx
Thank you, my dear Shey 🙏🌺🙏